I understand that change is good and nothing remains the same. I have come to realize that although you should treat people how you want to be treated, sometimes people don’t treat you how you treat them. At the ripe age of 44, I’m realizing that it’s ok to treat people how they treat you and it’s okay to outgrow people. That’s a part of life. I’m too old to be trying to “guess” where I stand with people. If you pay attention, they will show you with their actions instead of their words. It becomes evident to see, when their plans no longer include you. No one owes you anything, not even a simple courtesy nor an explanation.
A writer, Annette Petrick wrote, “Consider This” :
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed or just felt. They have come to assist you through a hard time, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. Then, suddenly, the person disappears from your life. Your need has been met; their work is done.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share or grow or give back. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They give you great joy. Believe it; it is real. But only for a season.
Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons—things you must build upon to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all your other relationships.
Think about the people in your life over the years. Whether they were there for a reason, a season or a lifetime, accept them and treasure them for however long they were meant to be part of your life.
And when they are gone, be thankful for the gifts you received from them when they were here—for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Thanks Annette, I get it now, I truly do. I’m taking the advice that I have constantly given to my daughters about their friends. I’m stepping up to make the necessary adjustments.